What really bothers me about the lack of character development and complexity of Mindy/Min-Dae, Park’s mom, is that her story is considered not important to be written about. Even by her own son’s narration.
My mom’s not the same generation as Mindy, but she did come to the US from Korea. My mom was the second youngest and is the only one who left Korea for a life in the US with a man (my dad is also Korean) she’d known for a month. Without a college degree or any real plans of a job, she bought into the whole ~*American Dream*~ and it definitely was not at all she expected. I always saw English study books, English CD-Roms, and English/Korean dictionaries around the house growing up. My mom even owns a Korean version of Strunk and White’s “Elements of Style.” She used to read all the mangas I’d borrow from the library to practice.
My mom told me that she learned how to cook Korean food when she got the US. She had nobody to teach her. She basically cooked from memory and the ingredients she found at the tiny Korean market—which is why it’s kind of hard to teach me because it’s all from her own trial and error process.
She talks about her life in Korea, but there are a lot of things I learned much later. There’s plenty I don’t know.
And even though life has not turned out what she thought’d be when she was 25, my mom is not some bitter person. She continuously pushes me to try new things and seize every opportunity I get.
So it’s really frustrating to read Eleanor & Park and see Mindy reduced to this two dimensional character. To a character clearly based off racist tropes and stereotypes.
It’s sad to see Park not have an actual relationship with his mom. From what I remember, it’s very surface level. Yes, there were/are times when I get frustrated with my mom and wished she could speak English. Didn’t stick out as much. Especially when I was a teenager. But that kind of feeling was always followed up by guilt since I knew it was an unfair expectation.
There could have been so much more to this story. And yet the author squandered the chance.
Why was Park half-Korean? Just because? Then why not just make Park white? Why specifically Korean? Considering the story really could have been the same if Park was a white kid (because white kids bully other white kids and be outcasts and have parents who are lovey dovey). Really, the author could have made Park a white kid and there would be no difference.
The only answer I can conclude is that it’s fetishization.
I don’t want, nor need, that kind of representation. And especially so in Young Adult.
PLEASE don’t trend any hashtag for Luhan’s birthday tomorrow. This is due to the grieving of the victims from the Sewol incident. Please spread this. Thank you! :)
IM LAUGHING LUHAN DONT GET NO LOVE AROUND HERE BRUH
kpop bloggers who turn out to be super socially aware and know perfectly well how to differentiate between idols and a country and like idols because they are hot and not out of a fetish
i just want people to stop making this about the kpop fandom. i dont give a damn about my fandoms reputation right now. people have lost their lives and if your only thoughts center around whether or not ppl are making your fandom look bad or good or whether or not they’re making you proud, then you are scum. point black